[xubuntu] Problem creating symlinks in xubuntu

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http://ubuntuforums.org – I'm used to nautilus in Mint where you simply right click on a file or folder and do Make Link. It creates a link in that same folder which you can then put anywhere you like. Xubuntu doesn't come with this and adding a custom action into Thunar for "ln -s %f Link to %n" doesn't create anything. If I try something like "ln -s /file to copy /folder the file is in" then terminal says the file already exists, which it does. I want a link to the file that already exists. The ln man page didn't clear anything up, wasn't expecting this to be so difficult. Any tips for a noob? (Hardware)