This post helped me http://chakra-project.org/bbs/viewtopic.php?id=10431 "autospawn=yes" in /etc/pulse/client.con solved my problem too and Skype I only unchecked allow Skype to automatically control the mixer level. So it works now.Edit:It seems the flash problem was linked to the pulseaudio problem so the flash problem is also solved.
I have 220.127.116.11 (amd64) and can't figure out how to get to 1.16.2 :-(Lovely, I just answered my own question:from http://wiki.debian.org/skype "From Wheezy onwards, Debian supports Multi-Arch. The Skype packages for i386 works well with Multi-Arch."Yeah, I don't have Wheezy yet. DOH!