can't ftp or web-deploy to w7 server, can't even ftp to localhost [closed]

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http://serverfault.com – Background: I have a clean install of w7 pro. MS Security Essentials installed, but disabled (for now) Firewall disabled (had ftp and web deploy ports open, anyway) IIS (www, ftp, remote management) and asp.net stuff installed. I can browse to my ASP.Net site on localhost, and everything works. I can browse to the site from another machine, and everything works. I can remote desktop from another machine into server. I can't do a web deploy to the server, I keep getting connnection actively refused. Then I tried to FTP in, and I get the same error (from another machine). So then I tried to (HowTos)